Advice

how-to-give-advice-in-englishNow, about four years into this whole fatherhood thing, I’m realizing something I only understood intellectually before – I don’t know shit. When talking to my friend AAron the other day, we were discussing child-rearing and I conceded that yes, I would probably screw up Monki somewhere along the way. No matter how much we try to do the right things in the right way, we (and, let’s face it, all parents) are going to screw up and make mistakes.

To this end, I’ve started collecting little nuggets of wisdom to pass along. Advice from previous parents who have been nice enough to publish their own thoughts and ideas.

Like, there’s Rufus Griscom, who faces a dilemma many parents face at some point: he has plenty advice for his kids, but none of them want to listen. Fortunately, he’s written it all down in case they become interested some day.

Then there’s these 100 Wise Words For Everyone by Walker Lamond, which I’ve taken the liberty of reproducing in list form below:

  1. There are plenty of ways to enter a pool. The stairs is not one of them.
  2. Never cancel dinner plans by text message.
  3. Don’t knock it till you try it.
  4. If a street performer makes you stop walking, you owe him a buck.
  5. Always use we when referring to your home team or your government.
  6. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
  7. DON’T underestimate free throws in a game of HORSE.
  8. Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
  9. Don’t dumb it down.
  10. You only get one chance to notice a new haircut.
  11. If you’re staying more than one night, unpack.
  12. Never park in front of a bar.
  13. Expect the seat in front of you to recline. Prepare accordingly.
  14. Keep a picture of your first fish, first car, and first girl/boyfriend.
  15. Hold your heroes to a high standard.
  16. A suntan is earned, not bought.
  17. Never lie to your doctor.
  18. All guns are loaded.
  19. Don’t mention sunburns. Believe me, they know.
  20. The best way to show thanks is to wear it. Even if it’s only once.
  21. Take a vacation from your cell phone, internet, and TV once a year.
  22. Don’t fill up on bread, no matter how good it is.
  23. A handshake beats an autograph.
  24. Don’t linger in the doorway. In or out.
  25. If you choose to go in drag, don’t sell yourself short.
  26. If you want to know what makes you unique, sit for a caricature.
  27. Never get your haircut the day of a special event.
  28. Be mindful of what comes between you and the Earth. Always buy good shoes, tires, and sheets.
  29. Never eat lunch at your desk if you can avoid it.
  30. When you’re with new friends, don’t just talk about old friends.
  31. Eat lunch with the new kids.
  32. When traveling, keep your wits about you.
  33. It’s never too late for an apology.
  34. Don’t pose with booze.
  35. If you have right of way, TAKE IT.
  36. You don’t get to choose your own nickname.
  37. When you marry someone, remember you marry their entire family.
  38. Never push someone off a dock.
  39. Under no circumstances should you ask a woman if she is pregnant.
  40. It’s not enough to be proud of your ancestry, live up to it.
  41. Don’t make a scene.
  42. When giving a thank you speech, short and sweet is best.
  43. Know when to ignore the camera.
  44. Never gloat.
  45. Invest in great luggage.
  46. Make time for your mom on your birthday, It’s her special day too.
  47. When opening presents, no one likes a good guesser.
  48. Sympathy is a crutch, never fake a limp.
  49. Give credit. Take Blame.
  50. Suck it up every now and again.
  51. Never be the last one in the pool.
  52. Don’t stare.
  53. Address everyone who carries a firearm professionally.
  54. Stand up to bullies. You’ll only have to do it once.
  55. If you’ve made your point, stop talking.
  56. Admit it when you’re wrong.
  57. If you offer to help don’t quit until the job is done.
  58. Look people in the eye when you thank them.
  59. Thank the bus driver.
  60. Never answer the phone at the dinner table.
  61. Forgive yourself for your mistakes.
  62. Know at least one good joke.
  63. Don’t boo. Even the ref is somebody’s son.
  64. Know how to cook one good meal.
  65. Learn to drive a stick shift.
  66. Be cool to younger kids. Reputations are built over a lifetime.
  67. It’s okay to go to the movies by yourself.
  68. Dance with your mother/father.
  69. Don’t lose your cool. Especially at work.
  70. Always thank the host.
  71. If you don’t understand, ask before it’s too late.
  72. Know the size of your boyfriend/girlfriend’s clothes.
  73. There is nothing wrong with a plain t-shirt.
  74. Be a good listener. Don’t just take your turn to talk.
  75. Keep your word.
  76. In college always sit in the front. You’ll stand out immediately. Come grade time it might come in handy.
  77. Carry your mothers bags. She carried you for 9 months.
  78. Be patient with airport security. They are just doing their job.
  79. Don’t be the talker in a movie.
  80. The opposite sex likes people who shower.
  81. You are what you do. Not what you say.
  82. Learn to change a tire.
  83. Be kind. Everyone has a hard fight ahead of them.
  84. An hour with grandparents is time well spent. Ask for advice when you need it.
  85. Don’t litter.
  86. If you have a sister, get to know her boyfriend. Your opinion is important.
  87. You won’t always be the strongest of fastest. But you can be the toughest.
  88. Never call someone before or after 9 AM and 9PM.
  89. Buy the orange properties in Monopoly.
  90. Make the little things count.
  91. Always wear a bra at work.
  92. There is a fine line between looking sultry and slutty. Find it.
  93. You’re never too old to need your mom.
  94. Ladies, if you make the decision to wear heels on the first date commit to keeping them on and toning down how much your feet kill.
  95. Know the words to your national anthem.
  96. Your dance moves might not be the best, but I promise making a fool of yourself is more fun than sitting on the bench alone.
  97. Smile at strangers.
  98. Make Goals.
  99. Being old is not dictated by your bedtime.
  100. If you HAVE to fight, punch first and punch hard.
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  1. Loved those! Many I’ve heard, some I haven’t.

    On Thu, Jul 9, 2020 at 10:06 PM Getting the Hang of Thursdays wrote:

    > CaptainJaq posted: “Now, about four years into this whole fatherhood > thing, I’m realizing something I only understood intellectually before – I > don’t know shit. When talking to my friend AAron the other day, we were > discussing child-rearing and I conceded that yes, I would p” >

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